Coping with the Rocky Days
Without the bad, we would never have the good. That's a true fact. However, it doesn't make the bad times any easier to cope with; logic doesn't necessarily cut it. Over time we do manage to build up a collection of mechanisms for dealing with the rocky times, and hence I thought I would share some of my ways of coping that get me through the rockiest of times.
Be patient with yourself
First and foremost, this is essential for getting through any hardships you have to face. You can't beat yourself up for what has happened, or hate yourself for not "being better". Everyone (yes, everyone) feels defeated from time-to-time. Hopelessness kicks in. "Why am not better by now?" You see, that kind of thinking gets you absolutely nowhere except deeper in a pit of self-pity. Step one, allows yourself to struggle. It's okay to have bad days, it's just not okay to give up.
Take care of you first
Coinciding with step one, you must be willing to engage in self-care. For some, this means going for a run because leg muscles pumping and fresh air is the key to feeling better, and for some, this may mean a hot bath with a lush ball and bubbles. For others, this could mean both. Self care is entirely individual, and the only rule is that your top priority is yourself - you must do what you want or need, not what your illness tries to manipulate you into. Self care is not selfish.
Distraction, distraction, distraction
Yet again, the prime, most helpful, distractions are entirely individual. What may help one person, may be totally useless to another person. It also depends on how you're feeling as well as what you're trying to distract from. I've included some links of masterposts at the end of this post that may be useful in finding your best distraction!
Speak up
No one has to suffer in silence or alone. Keeping your struggles to yourself can do more harm than good, despite how your brain tries to convince you that you're notworththeeffort/itwonthelp/noonecares. Someone cares - heck, I care. Don't bottle things up; a problem shared is a problem halved.
I personally recommend copious amounts of tea, chocolate, and blankets, too.
Take care,
- Alisha x
Be patient with yourself
First and foremost, this is essential for getting through any hardships you have to face. You can't beat yourself up for what has happened, or hate yourself for not "being better". Everyone (yes, everyone) feels defeated from time-to-time. Hopelessness kicks in. "
Take care of you first
Coinciding with step one, you must be willing to engage in self-care. For some, this means going for a run because leg muscles pumping and fresh air is the key to feeling better, and for some, this may mean a hot bath with a lush ball and bubbles. For others, this could mean both. Self care is entirely individual, and the only rule is that your top priority is yourself - you must do what you want or need, not what your illness tries to manipulate you into. Self care is not selfish.
Distraction, distraction, distraction
Yet again, the prime, most helpful, distractions are entirely individual. What may help one person, may be totally useless to another person. It also depends on how you're feeling as well as what you're trying to distract from. I've included some links of masterposts at the end of this post that may be useful in finding your best distraction!
Speak up
No one has to suffer in silence or alone. Keeping your struggles to yourself can do more harm than good, despite how your brain tries to convince you that you're notworththeeffort/itwonthelp/noonecares. Someone cares - heck, I care. Don't bottle things up; a problem shared is a problem halved.
I personally recommend copious amounts of tea, chocolate, and blankets, too.
Take care,
- Alisha x
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